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It hit me one day, while watching “The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet” on Lifetime, that the new culture is 40. Not only having a baby at the age of 40, the transition that comes with entering this age is more than a notion. With re-entering the world of journaling, I shared with my over 40 friends my thoughts and feelings, and the journey was the same – men, business, children and sex. So why not blog about it…

40: Life After Birth! Happy Blogging…

Are you sharing your #age?

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In the last month, I have either had conversations or seen interviews or over heard women talking about age. The surprising thing is even those considered younger, who one would think should not be concerned, are hiding their age. I have never understood why it was something not to share or celebrate.  I have at times, tied my age to accomplishments but I have not used a delay in a goal to not embrace my age.  I feel that age allows you to contrbute to another (wisdom, information, battle scars, etc.) for another woman or man.

Because I have experienced age discrimination in my career many times, I have to attest, this maybe the contributors. Based on peoples’ belief or non belief about where they are or should be; they bring in their own perceptions, really baggage, about you; and your fear of others view?

Regardless, I’ll continue to reveal my age, if I feel it’s needed or just because I’m glad for every year I am…#40LifeAfterBirth

Ten Questions for Meaningful #Career Development

I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Eric Maisel in January and he was and is amazing! Hearing him say that 99% of the people he coaches are not leading meaningful careers, let alone lives – I believe that go hand in hand with most – was a lot to process and saddening. He said to me that it’s hard to process, when someone like yourself, is. So when I found this article, I wanted to share it. It’s from someone who took his creativity course, Dr. Katharine Brooks.

Here are 3 of the 10 questions that stood out to me…the rest can be read here.

1. If I am not doing the work I’m intending to do, why am I not doing it?

This first questions hones in on the need for reflection. Why are you in the career you are in? Is it what you wanted or hoped for? If not, what would you prefer to do? Dr. Maisel would encourage you to face the anxiety that this question might produce.

6. Am I doing my own creating?

Whose career are you in? The one you selected or the one that was selected for you? Your college major, decision to go to law school, or going into the family business may have all been your idea—or perhaps you were influenced by someone else. It’s time to take a look at this. Go back to question #1—if your career isn’t working for you, maybe it’s because the reason you went into it isn’t valid for you anymore. Or maybe your career choice is fine, but you’re not doing enough for yourself. You might have taken a job in journalism because you love to write, but now you’re only writing what others want you to write. When/how do you find time to write for yourself?

8. What action will I engage in today in support of my creative life?

This question is fundamental. You can think about your job search or career change all you want. What are you going to do about it? What action (one small step) will you take today that might move you one step forward in the process?

Here’s to a meaningful life!

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#40LifeAfterBirth

Giving up #Worry

The dialog around what the outcomes are from worry, whether it’s a constant fixture in your life or one that comes like a wave and then goes – but returns; worry can be hard to shake and cause turmoil in one’s life.

I realized that before the age of 40 and a little one, I don’t remember this being something that I dealt with. Even being an entrepreneur, I would sometimes face the conflict around finances but not loosing sleep or pivoting into worrying about minor things that become major.  But not putting this on parenting at all, but thyself.  After getting use to worry for my child, I think worry tried to become comfortable in my house…something I didn’t realize or recognize until last week. And that was the best medicine for it, recognition. Why? I was able to acknowledge it and change my thinking. Now, I am changing my thinking – a level of reprogramming that I physically feel. NOW, for me, worry has no place here…work in progress. #40lifeafterbirth

British philosopher Alan Watts poses the question in his speech on worry, which he describes as “a mind in the grip of vicious circles.”

#InternationalDayofHappiness

Live simply and take life more easily. #Happiness lies in giving yourself time to think and to introspect. Be alone once in a while, and remain more in silence. – #Yogananda

The Art of Stillness is a recent book that I stumbled upon during my favorite show #SuperSoulSunday.  I passed it on to someone else who struggles with stillness )thinks they must be busy physically and mentally all the time) and is in denial about the outcomes of not being present is producing in their lives. Now I know this isn’t always easy because this “thing called life” can make it hard; the hustle and bustle of the day; and demands we and others place on us. However, being present makes for a huge contributor in being happy. How? You focus on the moment and most times you can find much to be thankful for.  The mind and body relax and calm and seems to elevate the spirit.

Silence can be scary for some. The time to be introspective can be a time of being critical of ones self and not loving. Something that helps when this arises is heart meditation mixed with recognizing what the heart is saying and offering it words of encouragement.

Try it! #40LifeAfterBirth just gets better.

#WomensHistoryMonth

Happy Sunday!

I find myself celebrating or maybe just paying more attention to Women History Month. Why?  I recognize more that the ability to be bold, stand confident and fearless, isn’t easy but required. The more you are in your head, the harder these words become, to act upon when you are on the right path. So I have to meditate more preparing myself to get up with these words in mind.

I found this video on Twitter that I know is worth sharing that talks on this…Women On Top

Knitting Is A Right, Not A Privilege

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Great Post on #Knitting

Originally posted on Work Even:

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An article has been circulating that has fueled a lot of discussion among knitters, entitled “Never Say This To a Knitter. Really, Just Don’t Do It.” What exactly are you never supposed to say to a knitter? You might think it’s a remark about him/her having too much time on their hands, or an ageist joke about who, stereotypically, is “supposed” to knit. It’s neither of those. The author, Anne Miller, argues—and many knitters agree—that the comment she least wants to hear (and does hear, often) is “You should sell your knitting!”

The first thing I noticed is that the article was published by Yahoo! Makers, which is apparently a thing that exists (neat, I guess). The headline is classic clickbait, designed to compel and stir up discussion. But the article’s thesis, that knitters are tired of hearing well-intentioned randos insist that they should commodify their craft, is…

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Guy Crafts’ and ‘Girl Crafts’? Truth About #Maker #Stereotypes

The more I get into being a maker or shall I say embracing a part of me that was lost or forgotten. I have experienced that lack of men in the craft, not because they don’t take part, but the gathering usually ends up being women. The view is that men don’t so or knit. Yet they dominate in crafts like woodworking and metal work. What is this about?

See this article Yahoo Maker