We posted this article on our social media. And with the power of synchronicity, this is what I have been meditating on for the last week – #resilience. I think that with eh amount of #stress I keep hearing kids are having at such a young age, this may be one that they need to put in practice, along with their parents.
How important is resilience? It could have long-term health implications. A study published in the February 1, 2016, issue of Heart found that young men with low-stress resilience scores were 40% more likely to develop high blood pressure later in life. Read more here!
I hope everyone has a year filled with joy and grace! If you are like me, at times I take on more than I can get done. So this year…
“if it’s not on the agenda, we don’t talk about it.”
Happy Sunday Everyone!
I took a 1 hour interactive lecture on how to manifest your desires and even your truth. One thing the lecturer offered is that one can not manifest something into their life if there is a blockage from past incidents, situations or persons that you have not resolved. These can cause a delay in the manifestation.
One example used was a young lady who wanted to manifest her mate. She gave a long list of what she wanted before we sat to meditate by walking through our manifestation. But the question posed to her on every thing she added ‘was this an issue in her life presently that hasn’t been resolved. Did she the last mate cheat? Did she deal with low self-esteem? Did the last person late financial resources due to drive?’
The exercise was one that made each of us in the room look at the present life we live in to assess why what we desire to manifest has not happened. It requires an ownership instead of blame. It’s the opportunity to see and be silent to know what and where you are now.
After an observation and interaction with a young woman, this Friday in a professional situation, I realized how people don’t take responsibility when they have not held up their end and are the leadership. But worsens the situation, when people find an opportunity in that moment to use someone else issue to take away from their contribution to the chaos.
One of the definitions of Responsibility
the state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.
If you take the definition and don’t talk about the accountability that comes with responsibility, it will let you know why many walk away without accountability.
Accountability – an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions
In my years personally and professionally, I have learned to learn in the moments when things are not handled at the best, whether it’s my fault or the other and admitting your contribution to the chaos. Most can respect when you step up and say “this was my fault” and offer how you are going to correct it or could improve the next time – being accountable. This does not mean there will not be some level of “tongue lashing” or consequences but very rare is the reaction and the bounce back from anger slow to surface or even subside – when there isn’t some other issue involved as well.
The ability to be teacher and participatory centered leader can make the difference when they are partnered together. The great collaboration of the two allows for the teacher to become an active participate who learns from the lesson as well; while he/she supports the learning, rather than just offering up the direction and walking away hoping the lesson is learned.
With this incident, the young woman walked away from participating in the lesson and didn’t take responsibility and accountability for her part; but did a wonderful job of passing on, speaking on and recounting the other sides issues.
How people learn is always a fascinating them to me and can make the difference and how character is or is not developed.
On LinkedIn, this week, a woman posed this question to a group of other women:
Why do women let fear drive them into staying with a job they hate instead of starting that business that they love?
With 399 comments, at least 50% were filled with the response about fear or they commented and fear was in their answer. Some felt it wasn’t fear but the security of letting go of the job and low self-esteem. Most of the women responding were in the 40 and older category, who seemed to be offering wisdom on the why with less excuses or reasons than others under 40.
I believe it comes down to self-doubt and security. Too often we are the only ones blocking ourselves from transitioning to a better place. When you are able to step out of your own way and quit holding yourself back, it is then that you truly have a breakthrough!
The point that made me most engaged and a bit pissed were the one’s that wanted to use “being a single mother” as why they can not start their own business. And I don’t agree that this is the reason, as I live in this world and I am an entrepreneur, but may be a challenge you face. Money can be a challenge in any business, whether you work or someone or own it. Family will always be a balancing act, whether you work for someone else or your self. But it you keep telling yourself that being a single mother accounts for having less than you deserve, I feel you do such a dis-service to yourself and others who are single mothers.
But what I do realize after 24 years in business, everyone isn’t meant to be an owner, and that is not a gender issue. Just have passion for whatever you are doing, that brings happiness and ultimately JOY!
Happy 4th of July Everyone!
I find now that you see this bit of debate between the time frame in which someone can achieve success. The younger you are, you can make it in certain industries or careers; but as you get older the playing field isn’t balanced or even fair in treatment. I know that age discrimination is real! But how do or does it get exposed more or even shifted into more of an advantage for those that are aging?
I had a client this week, keep identifying his desire to hire someone who they felt needed to be young with energy. I understand it, as I told him, but seasoned with knowledge and the ability to help him get where he needs to be should be a criteria as well or at least have the same opportunity. In addition, some people are in career transition and are just as willing to learn, as the young person with impressionable minds or the eagerness to learn…so don’t leave them out.
I found this article which notes #celebrities and #models of all industries that didn’t do what we may consider great things or even just start their career until 40 – #VeraWang didn’t design her first dress until she was 40; Robin Chase cofounded #ZipCar at 42; and this list goes one.
As the article says “It’s Never Too Late!” Read Here
I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Eric Maisel in January and he was and is amazing! Hearing him say that 99% of the people he coaches are not leading meaningful careers, let alone lives – I believe that go hand in hand with most – was a lot to process and saddening. He said to me that it’s hard to process, when someone like yourself, is. So when I found this article, I wanted to share it. It’s from someone who took his creativity course, Dr. Katharine Brooks.
Here are 3 of the 10 questions that stood out to me…the rest can be read here.
1. If I am not doing the work I’m intending to do, why am I not doing it?
This first questions hones in on the need for reflection. Why are you in the career you are in? Is it what you wanted or hoped for? If not, what would you prefer to do? Dr. Maisel would encourage you to face the anxiety that this question might produce.
6. Am I doing my own creating?
Whose career are you in? The one you selected or the one that was selected for you? Your college major, decision to go to law school, or going into the family business may have all been your idea—or perhaps you were influenced by someone else. It’s time to take a look at this. Go back to question #1—if your career isn’t working for you, maybe it’s because the reason you went into it isn’t valid for you anymore. Or maybe your career choice is fine, but you’re not doing enough for yourself. You might have taken a job in journalism because you love to write, but now you’re only writing what others want you to write. When/how do you find time to write for yourself?
8. What action will I engage in today in support of my creative life?
This question is fundamental. You can think about your job search or career change all you want. What are you going to do about it? What action (one small step) will you take today that might move you one step forward in the process?
Here’s to a meaningful life!