On LinkedIn, this week, a woman posed this question to a group of other women:
Why do women let fear drive them into staying with a job they hate instead of starting that business that they love?
With 399 comments, at least 50% were filled with the response about fear or they commented and fear was in their answer. Some felt it wasn’t fear but the security of letting go of the job and low self-esteem. Most of the women responding were in the 40 and older category, who seemed to be offering wisdom on the why with less excuses or reasons than others under 40.
I believe it comes down to self-doubt and security. Too often we are the only ones blocking ourselves from transitioning to a better place. When you are able to step out of your own way and quit holding yourself back, it is then that you truly have a breakthrough!
The point that made me most engaged and a bit pissed were the one’s that wanted to use “being a single mother” as why they can not start their own business. And I don’t agree that this is the reason, as I live in this world and I am an entrepreneur, but may be a challenge you face. Money can be a challenge in any business, whether you work or someone or own it. Family will always be a balancing act, whether you work for someone else or your self. But it you keep telling yourself that being a single mother accounts for having less than you deserve, I feel you do such a dis-service to yourself and others who are single mothers.
But what I do realize after 24 years in business, everyone isn’t meant to be an owner, and that is not a gender issue. Just have passion for whatever you are doing, that brings happiness and ultimately JOY!
I find myself celebrating or maybe just paying more attention to Women History Month. Why? I recognize more that the ability to be bold, stand confident and fearless, isn’t easy but required. The more you are in your head, the harder these words become, to act upon when you are on the right path. So I have to meditate more preparing myself to get up with these words in mind.
I found this video on Twitter that I know is worth sharing that talks on this…Women On Top
Is is just me? But how can schools only give 20 minutes to talk about 8 weeks worth of work for a child. Fortunately we have a log that comes home daily and we meet with the teachers every 6 weeks on my sons academics; but that’s because I have been in education for 20 years and I see and know things. But 20 minutes gives no time and so many parents complain about this – feeling rushed and a little lost on what they are learning.
What parents forget and some schools hope you do, is your are their client/consumer, without you they couldn’t exist. So when you need to know what’s going on don’t wait or even just to check in – schedule time. Teachers have a lot on their plate but it’s the nature of being a good educator. THIS IS WHY THEY DO NEED MORE MONEY!!!
I have truly learned that being a parent is the hardest job I will ever have! But it continues to be the MOST priceless one.
It’s been so long since I have written! What a bang 2013 ended on. Getting a new degree, battling with my sons school to give him the proper education to just aging. Love this thing called LIFE!
I really look to hear from moms who are thinking about, have or still are homeschooling their children and running a business. How is it working for you? I have meet with other parents, read all the books, starting preparing the curriculum…but it’s the community that I want to know is out there. Please let me know your experience.
What I am learning about 40LifeAfterBirth is that the biggest transition seems to come around the age of 43 and balances out a 44. It’s mixed with a new outlook on life, yet, an uncertainty about what is next. Not because you have fear but I know I want to make the next level filled with nothing but joy and less of stress. But what does this next phase look like. It seems growth happens every two months, which is the same for my 4 year old.
In the meantime, I have the most balance between my mind and my body on not letting one dictate the other but work together to keep me moving in the right direction.
Until the next time!
“Why do husbands sleep in the same bed with their wives? I think it’s called mating.” Hilarious
This has been the most trying time of parenting. My son is so intelligent and comprehension level through the roof! But to go to the bathroom…No, mommy! I had to sit with myself, let go of my ego and expectation of him to let it happen in his time. We are better than before but still not there. However, no longer do I or his father stress about it; just our saying…he’ll get there.
Apparently I’m not alone, as other boy mother’s say the same…
Advice is always welcome!!!