We posted this article on our social media. And with the power of synchronicity, this is what I have been meditating on for the last week – #resilience. I think that with eh amount of #stress I keep hearing kids are having at such a young age, this may be one that they need to put in practice, along with their parents.
How important is resilience? It could have long-term health implications. A study published in the February 1, 2016, issue of Heart found that young men with low-stress resilience scores were 40% more likely to develop high blood pressure later in life. Read more here!
I realize that people inspire me, even fictional characters in films, that have stories of triumph.
Sunday, I saw the movie #Creed with Michael B Jordan and Sylvester Stallone. The tagline of the movie is very thought out by the wonderful storyteller, Ryan Coogler:
“Your legacy is more than your name.”
It was nostalgic as I remembered seeing the Rocky films, as a youth and that same inspiration of feeling someone determined to become what they imagined, resurfaced for me with Creed.
When you are inspired, that refreshing feeling and level of empowerment that rushes your body, can come with the same level of fear and doubt – how will I get this done? If I could bottle up the rush and empowerment and inhale it like the essential oil, lemongrass, I would! But as I age, I realize the execution of that inspiration requires you to surround yourself with those who believe in you, encourage and motivate you before you even tell them you are doubting what or how this “thing” will get done. It comes when it is suppose to. A word of encouragement sent via a text, a quote on social media, a story told by a friend of someone else blessing and even a fictional character is sometimes the pivot you need to get done what may have seemed impossible, then becomes possible.
After an observation and interaction with a young woman, this Friday in a professional situation, I realized how people don’t take responsibility when they have not held up their end and are the leadership. But worsens the situation, when people find an opportunity in that moment to use someone else issue to take away from their contribution to the chaos.
One of the definitions of Responsibility
the state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.
If you take the definition and don’t talk about the accountability that comes with responsibility, it will let you know why many walk away without accountability.
Accountability – an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions
In my years personally and professionally, I have learned to learn in the moments when things are not handled at the best, whether it’s my fault or the other and admitting your contribution to the chaos. Most can respect when you step up and say “this was my fault” and offer how you are going to correct it or could improve the next time – being accountable. This does not mean there will not be some level of “tongue lashing” or consequences but very rare is the reaction and the bounce back from anger slow to surface or even subside – when there isn’t some other issue involved as well.
The ability to be teacher and participatory centered leader can make the difference when they are partnered together. The great collaboration of the two allows for the teacher to become an active participate who learns from the lesson as well; while he/she supports the learning, rather than just offering up the direction and walking away hoping the lesson is learned.
With this incident, the young woman walked away from participating in the lesson and didn’t take responsibility and accountability for her part; but did a wonderful job of passing on, speaking on and recounting the other sides issues.
How people learn is always a fascinating them to me and can make the difference and how character is or is not developed.
The dialog around what the outcomes are from worry, whether it’s a constant fixture in your life or one that comes like a wave and then goes – but returns; worry can be hard to shake and cause turmoil in one’s life.
I realized that before the age of 40 and a little one, I don’t remember this being something that I dealt with. Even being an entrepreneur, I would sometimes face the conflict around finances but not loosing sleep or pivoting into worrying about minor things that become major. But not putting this on parenting at all, but thyself. After getting use to worry for my child, I think worry tried to become comfortable in my house…something I didn’t realize or recognize until last week. And that was the best medicine for it, recognition. Why? I was able to acknowledge it and change my thinking. Now, I am changing my thinking – a level of reprogramming that I physically feel. NOW, for me, worry has no place here…work in progress. #40lifeafterbirth
British philosopher Alan Watts poses the question in his speech on worry, which he describes as “a mind in the grip of vicious circles.”
“To my Forty and over crew! Don’t believe the hype…We DO get better with age!” Jada Pinkett Smith
I still struggle with wearing a two-piece after having a little one and the belly fat that seems to stay. But to the gym I go after seeing this woman. Love Jada!