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#HappyNewYear #2016 – #Completion

I hope everyone has a year filled with joy and grace! If you are like me, at times I take on more than I can get done. So this year…

“if it’s not on the agenda, we don’t talk about it.”

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What #inspires you? #MotivationMonday

I realize that people inspire me, even fictional characters in films, that have stories of triumph.

Sunday, I saw the movie #Creed with Michael B Jordan and Sylvester Stallone. The tagline of the movie is very thought out by the wonderful storyteller, Ryan Coogler:

“Your legacy is more than your name.”

It was nostalgic as I remembered seeing the Rocky films, as a youth and that same inspiration of feeling someone determined to become what they imagined, resurfaced for me with Creed.

When you are inspired, that refreshing feeling and level of empowerment that rushes your body, can come with the same level of fear and doubt – how will I get this done? If I could bottle up the rush and empowerment and inhale it like the essential oil, lemongrass, I would! But as I age, I realize the execution of that inspiration requires you to surround yourself with those who believe in you, encourage and motivate you before you even tell them you are doubting what or how this “thing” will get done. It comes when it is suppose to.  A word of encouragement sent via a text, a quote on social media, a story told by a friend of someone else blessing and even a fictional character is sometimes the pivot you need to get done what may have seemed impossible, then becomes possible.

#40LifeAfterBirth #StoriesofTriumph

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Taking Responsibility and Accountability

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After an observation and interaction with a young woman,  this Friday in a professional situation, I realized how people don’t take responsibility when they have not held up their end and are the leadership. But worsens the situation, when people find an opportunity in that moment to use someone else issue to take away from their contribution to the chaos.

One of the definitions of Responsibility

the state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.

If you take the definition and don’t talk about the accountability that comes with responsibility, it will let you know why many walk away without accountability.

Accountability – an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions

In my years personally and professionally, I have learned to learn in the moments when things are not handled at the best, whether it’s my fault or the other and admitting your contribution to the chaos. Most can respect when you step up and say “this was my fault” and offer how you are going to correct it or could improve the next time – being accountable.  This does not mean there will not be some level of “tongue lashing” or consequences but very rare is the reaction and the bounce back from anger slow to surface or even subside – when there isn’t some other issue involved as well.

The ability to be teacher and participatory centered leader can make the difference when they are partnered together. The great collaboration of the two allows for the teacher to become an active participate who learns from the lesson as well; while he/she supports the learning, rather than just offering up the direction and walking away hoping the lesson is learned.

With this incident, the young woman walked away from participating in the lesson and didn’t take responsibility and accountability for her part; but did a wonderful job of passing on, speaking on and recounting the other sides issues.

How people learn is always a fascinating them to me and can make the difference and how character is or is not developed.

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Ten Questions for Meaningful #Career Development

I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Eric Maisel in January and he was and is amazing! Hearing him say that 99% of the people he coaches are not leading meaningful careers, let alone lives – I believe that go hand in hand with most – was a lot to process and saddening. He said to me that it’s hard to process, when someone like yourself, is. So when I found this article, I wanted to share it. It’s from someone who took his creativity course, Dr. Katharine Brooks.

Here are 3 of the 10 questions that stood out to me…the rest can be read here.

1. If I am not doing the work I’m intending to do, why am I not doing it?

This first questions hones in on the need for reflection. Why are you in the career you are in? Is it what you wanted or hoped for? If not, what would you prefer to do? Dr. Maisel would encourage you to face the anxiety that this question might produce.

6. Am I doing my own creating?

Whose career are you in? The one you selected or the one that was selected for you? Your college major, decision to go to law school, or going into the family business may have all been your idea—or perhaps you were influenced by someone else. It’s time to take a look at this. Go back to question #1—if your career isn’t working for you, maybe it’s because the reason you went into it isn’t valid for you anymore. Or maybe your career choice is fine, but you’re not doing enough for yourself. You might have taken a job in journalism because you love to write, but now you’re only writing what others want you to write. When/how do you find time to write for yourself?

8. What action will I engage in today in support of my creative life?

This question is fundamental. You can think about your job search or career change all you want. What are you going to do about it? What action (one small step) will you take today that might move you one step forward in the process?

Here’s to a meaningful life!

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Giving up #Worry

The dialog around what the outcomes are from worry, whether it’s a constant fixture in your life or one that comes like a wave and then goes – but returns; worry can be hard to shake and cause turmoil in one’s life.

I realized that before the age of 40 and a little one, I don’t remember this being something that I dealt with. Even being an entrepreneur, I would sometimes face the conflict around finances but not loosing sleep or pivoting into worrying about minor things that become major.  But not putting this on parenting at all, but thyself.  After getting use to worry for my child, I think worry tried to become comfortable in my house…something I didn’t realize or recognize until last week. And that was the best medicine for it, recognition. Why? I was able to acknowledge it and change my thinking. Now, I am changing my thinking – a level of reprogramming that I physically feel. NOW, for me, worry has no place here…work in progress. #40lifeafterbirth

British philosopher Alan Watts poses the question in his speech on worry, which he describes as “a mind in the grip of vicious circles.”

#InternationalDayofHappiness

Live simply and take life more easily. #Happiness lies in giving yourself time to think and to introspect. Be alone once in a while, and remain more in silence. – #Yogananda

The Art of Stillness is a recent book that I stumbled upon during my favorite show #SuperSoulSunday.  I passed it on to someone else who struggles with stillness )thinks they must be busy physically and mentally all the time) and is in denial about the outcomes of not being present is producing in their lives. Now I know this isn’t always easy because this “thing called life” can make it hard; the hustle and bustle of the day; and demands we and others place on us. However, being present makes for a huge contributor in being happy. How? You focus on the moment and most times you can find much to be thankful for.  The mind and body relax and calm and seems to elevate the spirit.

Silence can be scary for some. The time to be introspective can be a time of being critical of ones self and not loving. Something that helps when this arises is heart meditation mixed with recognizing what the heart is saying and offering it words of encouragement.

Try it! #40LifeAfterBirth just gets better.

The Fulfillment of ‪#‎Desire‬ – ‪#‎Energy‬ of ‪#‎Attraction‬

#Happy2015

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How can a person with a bad self image harness power? At the level of your true self you already feel complete. You are whole. The only thing the true self wants is to see you whole. Also which involve growth, expansion and evolution. Just being yourself you direct the energy of attraction where it needs to go. There is no need for massive will power. But we make the decision. Personal choices define what gets attracted to us. #DeepakChopra

I’m Back!!!

It’s been so long since I have written! What a bang 2013 ended on. Getting a new degree, battling with my sons school to give him the proper education to just aging. Love this thing called LIFE!

I really look to hear from moms who are thinking about, have or still are homeschooling their children and running a business. How is it working for you? I have meet with other parents, read all the books, starting preparing the curriculum…but it’s the community that I want to know is out there.  Please let me know your experience.

What I am learning about 40LifeAfterBirth is that the biggest transition seems to come around the age of 43 and balances out a 44. It’s mixed with a new outlook on life, yet, an uncertainty about what is next. Not because you have fear but I know I want to make the next level filled with nothing but joy and less of stress. But what does this next phase look like. It seems growth happens every two months, which is the same for my 4 year old.

In the meantime, I have the most balance between my mind and my body on not letting one dictate the other but work together to keep me moving in the right direction.

Until the next time!

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